Anger, Its one of the most primitive emotion that we get acquitted to in our life. Its existence itself coexists with other emotions like love and desire.
Is it Good or Bad?
Well, most of the time we have seen anger as negative emotion often quantify and limits over decision-making abilities, building a cloud of delusional.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of harming another; you end up getting burned.”
Its indeed a coal, but choice lies solely on one whether they want to use the fire to burn themselves or use it's a fuel to propel oneself ahead in life.
Hold it Inside or Express?
Well, the answer to this question is rather mixed, as confirmed by the Studies.
A study was conducted in the University of North Carolina in 2000, In this study 13,000 participants were asked to rate themselves on anger levels, and were followed up a few years later.
Taking into account lifestyle factor like smoking, diabetes, and weight.The study found that people who expressed their anger suffered more from heart disease than those who held back from shouting.
Best Approach is Constructive Expression!
Key here is to engage the mind in another activity so that the focus gets shifted from the current context. Indeed the anger will carry itself from one activity to another, I recommend that you keep on switching. While you switch you give yourself a chance to connect with yourself and think.
That short moment of thinking is good enough to get you out of that zone.
But at times there are trigger points and cyclic problem and loops we often find ourselves dragged in, Yet again the simple solution is a moment of self-connect so that you can analyze the problem.
Identify the solution, and channel that anger, frustration towards self-motivation.
A Short Story that Inspired Me.
There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.
The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there."
The little boy then understood how powerful his words were. He looked up at his father and said: "I hope you can forgive me father for the holes I put in you."
"Of course I can," said the father.
My Personal experience.
I have been suffering from anger issues on and off since from childhood. It may be a case for many of us and glad if it's not because If not channeled it can be self-destructive for you and people around you. At times so much that you do things that can not be turned back.
Anyways, I hope this read have brought even the slightest impact and gave you a new perspective.
