Dear girl,
Don't be addicted to fighting with your boyfriend. It's not healthy and you may think that it's helping you both understand each other better, but what it's actually doing is driving him further away from you. It's true that no relationship is perfect, but not all relationships have to be dysfunctional either. I'm not saying you shouldn't get upset when he does something wrong, but let's be honest, okay? There are things that you get upset about that are absolutely ridiculous and you hate arguing with him about it just as much as he does. If it's reasonable, then by all means be mad at him because he'd be mad at himself, too but if it's something little and petty, then don't waste your energy on that because it's the little things you get mad about that takes a toll on your relationship and it'll only drain you of your happiness. Aren't you tired of fighting with him? Aren't you sick of having the same argument over and over again? How could he possibly ever become a better man if all you do is make him feel like he's not capable of changing for you when he's trying? Maybe you're the one who needs to change, because obviously you have some problems of your own that you need to work on. You'll never be able to move forward with him if you keep taking two steps back by fighting with him. You're his rock and as his rock, you're supposed to help learn decency and you aren't gonna do that by being cruel and bitter. So realize that he's trying, acknowledge that he's doing his best, and know that he isn't actually doing anything wrong because if you continue to kick him down, you will lose him.
Sincerely,
A guy who cares