The study shows that, generally, women are more invested in their relationships than men and that their happiness and well-being is more dependent upon how things are going in their intimate relationships. They tend to have different benefits in relationships but they are both interested in intimacy. Young adult women tend to focus mostly on their need for connection. This manifests in having children, creating homes, and nurturing their intimate relationships. That’s not to say women don’t have careers. They do but most prioritize these connecting activities. There are so many different reasons why he could suddenly be emotionally distant that you can't make assumptions. He may not be getting ready to ghost you at all. He may just be dealing with his feelings in a way you don't understand. The good news, ladies, is that you can do something to help your relationship so he'll want to come crawling right back to you when he's ready.
- Let him have his space but not too much space: If you’re starting to feel panicky and worried, and you just don’t know what to do, the first and most important step is not to freak out. Guys generally start acting distant all of a sudden (i.e. out of the blue in a relationship) when something outside the relationship grabs their attention and forces them to concentrate on it. This could be a problem at work, a problem with his family, something in his personal life stressing him out, or something else entirely. The most important thing to remember is that letting him have the space to deal with what’s bothering him is the best possible thing to do in this situation. Your instincts are going to scream at you that you need to get reassurance and validation from him. They’ll be driving you to try to get attention and affection from him, in order to soothe the insecurity about the relationship that you’re feeling. Don’t let your instincts seize control. That’s the biggest mistake that many women make in this situation, and it’s often a fatal one to the relationship.
Now that you know the reasons why men are so distant, these differences make relationships interesting. Imagine if both of you focused on a connection at the same time. You'd feel blissfully happy with each other but nothing would get done. Similarly, if you are both primarily focused on significance, then you'd have financial success but have little in the way of intimacy.
