Everybody wants love and only a few people get love -- and those people are the ones who are not worried about getting it; they give it.
The only person who gets love is the one who gives it, and the people who are always wanting love are the people who are very miserly, who never give love. And if you don't give love, it will not be coming to you.
It comes only when you give.
So the desire that people should love you is a wrong desire. It is a very frustrating desire: it will make your whole life miserable.
The more mature a person is, the more he thinks about how should he love people. That is his problem: how he should become more loving.
Naturally to a loving person, love comes -- it is a response, it is a natural response. It is an echo... it has to come.
And without your making an effort to love people, it is not going to come. When it doesn't come you become more and more obsessed with it -- that nobody loves you. You are just sitting there waiting for somebody to love you.
But why should somebody love you? Just because you desire it?
They are also the same type of people. They are also sitting there and waiting for somebody. They are waiting for [you] to come and love, and [you] is waiting for them to come and love.
People are just sitting in their own places and nobody is moving.
And for women especially it becomes even more of a problem because for centuries they have waited; they have never taken any initiative.
They have missed much, because much of the beauty of love is in the initiating -- when you make an endeavour, when you approach a person, when you make yourself available, when you shower somebody with your love with no idea of return, because who knows whether the other will return it or not? It is a gamble. It is a groping in the dark.
One can never be certain. But one trusts life and one gives love.
And when you love, love comes -- there is no other way.
💓Osho💓
Abridged from:
God Is Not For Sale
Ch# 10
