¨ Because God is the one that in you produces as well as willing to do, by his good will.¨
Philippians 2:13 (Reina-Valera 1960).
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Who would not want other people to be different, to change their way of acting and thinking. Sometimes we want our neighbor to be as we pretend, in order to be able to tolerate them. But the reality is different and that is where the vain promises that other people make us are worthless, in the sense that they promise us things and do not fulfill them and say that they will change for another person.
There is a great truth and that no one changes for anyone, the only one who can achieve change in a person is God, the rest are pure acts disguised as truth, because at the time you give your back, the other person remains as before .
On the other hand, we must not force anyone to make decisions, or do what we want, everyone is master of his will. I explain, as children of God we should be an example and positively influence, give advice that goes according to what God likes, but the decision to take them and carry them out is the other person's; But not to force or threaten, we must always do things with the truth, accompanied by wisdom and respect.
Maybe our family, friends, and others have not converted, and do not want to know anything about God, do not worry, preach the word, talk about God and pray, that in due time He will. Because we won nothing by forcing others to attend church or to believe in God; because God does not force us to believe him, the decision is personal. Let's take charge of sowing the seed, because God is the one who will take care of making it fruitful. The struggle is not with our strength, but with your spirit who brings conviction of sin (Zechariah 4: 6).
So we must act with caution and stop thinking that we are the ones who achieve change in someone else, and not allow things to be done as we want, but as God wants them to be.
God is the one who motivates us to do good and helps us how to practice it, in order to fulfill his will!
¨ Do everything without speaking ill of anybody and without discussing everything, so that they do not sin and no one can blame them for anything. In this world full of evil and sinful people, you, as children of God, must move away from evil and shine for good behavior. Filipense 2: 14-15 (Current Language Translation).