Hey steemit community whats up. Im new to the community, figured I'd give it a shot so as mario would say heeereee weee goooo!!!
Life has granted me the amazing opportunity to be a step father to an amazing young boy, i have known this boy since his wee years in diapers but alas, i wasn't the step father at that time more so just friends with mom. Regardless I was honored with an honorary uncle position in this boys family and did i ever try to live up to that. Jump forward in the timeline to present day when I'm stepfather and no longer uncle, that could be another story for another time. OK lets get down to what you clicked in for, My son started off as a trouble maker in school as some young boys do, now i could point fingers as to why he was an angry violent kid but its besides the point now. Teachers and the principal always calling come your son did this your son did that. We had gotten to the bottom of this cause the summer before grade 2, so when grade 2 started he was pretty much a new boy, he was happier in life that i took over as stepfather and wasn't seeing his mom abused anymore or being locked in his room (Things the Ex did). We were expecting a better year, granted not 100% but with visible improvements. First month went off without a hitch to my memory and we were floored how fast this little dude was changing into a less aggressive rude child, we were going to have a great school year. Thats when the phone calls started happening, "uh hi I'm so and so from this school and your son did this and that or said this and that you get the gist. So we had talks with him about it, instead of feeling guilty more often than not when i brought these things up he got a look of confusion on his face blatantly "what?". This didn't fit his personality, the prior year you could see his guilt every time and his remorse in some situations, so this lead me to believe that wires are being crossed and i started examining everything the school spit at me with a fine tooth comb. So the the school suggests we get him to see an ADHD specialist like most schools do when they cant handle a kid, just pump them full of meth right. So what was actually happening at the school is my son had a reputation from the prior year and was getting in trouble for things other kids would be doing but subvert off to him as a scapegoat and none of the staff at the school gave him the benefit of the doubt or even the chance to admit that my son is trying to change to be a better kid. So my son gave up trying to talk to teachers it always boiled down to a he said she said and it was easier for them to place the blame because his prior year. My son is only 7. So now my son is in a school he hates going into a downward spiral because no one can give this 7 year old a chance to do better to prove himself. Over the summer we had just stopped all his self doubt prior he would call himself stupid and hit himself, basically just always down about himself and why obviously its not at home were we were constantly trying to pick him up, some nights i had to hold him in a bear hug because he would be hitting himself, MY 7 YEAR OLD!! imagine that. So we are doing everything we can for him at this point but for every step we take the school is pushing him back 2, my fiance actually got a sample of ADHD meds from our family doctor because we were on week 2 of waiting for the schools referral and the kept pestering us and telling us to medicate him, threatening his schooling and such saying he is going to miss out on this and that. Side note the way they dealt with my kid was to take his recess away and then put him back in class without burning any of that energy a young growing boy has, in turn he would get in trouble for disrupting the class because to their surprise he couldn't sit still and thats what they called ADHD. The first day we sent him to school on these meds we called the school to see how they felt he was, and they were floored but not in a believable way, they more so sham wowed his meds and tried selling us on the fact they were doing wonders. So at this point the school has set the belief in my sons head that he is a bad kid and will only do bad things so much so it started blowing over to home after we dealt with the first years issues over summer. Jump to a week of him taking these meds at the lowest possible dose and the school well his teacher to be exact calls CAS (children's aid society), saying he looks miserable everyday and it must be something at home and the meds the school basically shoved down his throat. CAS then came to our house to see my sons home life and left with a smile on her face knowing MY son is in great fucking hands at home and the school is questionable at best. We have since switched him schools and he is doing amazing! He loves the new school, teachers hear him out now, he wants to go to school again, making plenty of friends, and get this not 1 phone call saying anything negative.