Before you read any further, let’s all take a deep breath.
All together now; in...and out…
Didn’t that feel good to just slow down for a moment?
In a fast paced world filled with quick-fixes, it’s easy to get swept up in a day full of approaches and next thing you know, you’re back in bed. Alone.
I see this a lot with men who are running in circles with their hyperactive “game”, and are totally missing the point and ultimately, missing the connection.
James Marshall, the master of low-energy seduction, gives us valuable insight on why we get more when we do less.
I teach meditation as part of seduction because that gives you the tool to resolve, dissolve and reintegrate anything you want.
People come up to me and ask: “How do you low-energy game? How do I learn that technique?”
It’s not a technique. It’s a reflection of who I am.
Because I do a lot of meditation, because I push my comfort zones a lot, because I’m chilled out, because I’m actually really aware of what’s going on inside me.
I can feel the temperature of my body right now. I’m aware of my heart rate. I’m aware of the weight of my feet on the ground - all of these things that most people are NOT aware of.
A charismatic person it’s somebody who focuses the majority of their attention on you. And they have something interesting to say, hopefully.
The reason I’m very engaging with women (and with people, really) looks like I’m not doing a lot. I’m not doing a lot of things, and I seem to be getting a lot of responses. - most guys look at that and say: “It’s because he has a long hair. That must be it.”
I’m a skinny, tall dude, with a big fucking nose, who dresses quite well, who works with what he’s got. Overall I’m a “7” or “8”. There’s lot of guys I’ve taught who are more fucking attractive than I am, and have way worse game. So, don’t blame my hair.
It’s because when I’m with somebody, I focus all of my fucking attention on that person. I’m very aware of myself.
I’m looking at them in the eyes, right into the eyes, and I’m holding very extreme focus on them. So they feel like they’re the only person in the world. So they feel like: “Oh, this person it’s very clear and clarified with his intention.”
And as a result, they do what I want. Because when I ask them a question and I hold it on them, they have to deliver.
A lot of are guys going out there and asking girls stuff, and girls are like: “Uh… Whatever”. And you think you need to compensate by putting more energy in, by being more entertaining, by having fast comebacks, by having more extreme escalations or whatever else.
Have you ever felt like that and asked yourself, “What more do I need to get her attention?”
I would say NOTHING.
I’d say you need to do less, and make it more intense.
Because the amount that a person respects you, is attracted to you or wants to fuck you, has very little to do with the amount of time you’ve spent with that person. It is pretty much solid to do with the intensity of the time you’ve spent with that person.
So you can hang out with a co-worker for years, have a crush on her, and get fucking nowhere. And then some dude on a Saturday night can go out to her and put a bit of intensity on her and pick her up in 5 minutes and be fucking her.
It’s not because he has better “game”, it’s because he just focused his intention in his desire, and let it actually rip instead of hiding it and dissolving it, which is what most “nice guys” are doing.