"I don't understand? It was going so well! He was connected, loving and attentive. I thought it was time to bring up the 'relationship conversation' I just really wanted to KNOW where things were at and now he's stopped calling!"
Has this happened to you? You really felt like things were in a good place and boom he's gone without warning.
Why?
A woman's highest value is security. A man's highest value is freedom. We're each triggered when something threatens our highest need.
Men don't desire freedom FROM a relationship, they desire the freedom to CHOOSE the relationship without being manipulated, pressured or forced to make a decision before they are ready.
We say we want to be CHOSEN, but we take his freedom of choice away when we force, push or demand commitment. The way to get a man to reveal his feelings is not to demand he tell you, but to lean back and give him space to SHOW you.
When we push for a commitment it's because we crave the security of knowing exactly where things are at. Demanding that a man define the relationship ahead of his volunteering that to us makes a man who doesn't feel ready leave, ghost or fades away.
What if you were safe within yourself? What if you didn't NEED a commitment before he was ready? What if your high standards and the awareness that you have the ability to walk away if the relationship wasn't serving you was enough to keep you safe? What if you could lean back and allow him to choose you (and I mean REALLY choose you)?
This is the kind of woman that a High Value man is looking for because these are his qualities too. He is centered, confident, has high standards and will respond to a woman with high self-worth who isn't lonely or needy because she believes in herself and believes she deserves a magnificent man.
When you love yourself your attraction factor goes up. When you accept yourself your energy feels authentic and irresistible. When you understand how valuable the essence of you is magnificence begins to pour into your space.
None of us were designed to do this alone. I'd invite you to join me in the private SelfLove Soulmate group where women are learning the steps to let go of everything that is pushing men at arms length and creating a space that make men step in and consciously choose to commit to a woman for a lifetime.
Conscious men are looking for a woman who is confident enough and comfortable enough to give him space to step in and show her she's the one.
