Just because a person lives in America does not mean we have money flowing out every orifice. No one seems to understand how much it costs to live here -- not even some of us that live here!?
Please feel free to post this article every time that you see someone begging for money -- I am all for wealth through charity, but I am not a fan of this new flux of gimmies.
These are going to be the highlights because really what I want others (those begging especially) to see just how much money it takes to run a household (with a child and a dog).
First, I had to move back in with the Narcissist and her enabler, March 2016 -- one of the biggest mistakes of my life. At the time, I did not even realize just how badly I was treated as a kid, until it was full on again. Whoa...man. Just Frac'n whoa. They never had one nice word to say. They were constantly shushing a 9 month old -- any of you shush a child under three and we will have words (except in an emergency situation). Kids make noise -- talk to them, reinforce good habits -- don't minimize their feelings.
Then, I picked an awful daycare (on accident) -- little man totally, unbonded from me -- it was one of the worst moments of my life. I worked my ass off to rebond with my child. Success! And I got my first freelance writing contract! More success.
Then August 2016 came, and I had already made the decision that I was moving out. At the time, I was going to stay in the area of the negative ninnies because they are elderly and my family. I wanted to help them. Then on August 6, 2016 -- that changed in a heartbeat.
The enabler wanted us to have a conversation. I kept saying no. I finally told them that we were moving out, but I would stay in the area and we would come over often. I, also, said that I would help with chores. Nope, enter the Narcissist -- stage drama -- how dare you take Zeph from us? What? You do know we are only moving maybe 15 minutes away, right?
They kept pushing, and I finally had enough when he said that I was unsanitary. WTH -- yes, I can be messing, I WORK from home and refuse to do chores during the day -- but I am not a filthy vermin. Although funny haha, I did bring bedbugs into the house from the place I was staying in Texas -- We got rid of them, but I did enjoy the Karma moment after all the mean things they are always saying and doing.
I ended up calling 911 to request an escort out of their home. Thus began my slog through the next seven months of staying in domestic abuse shelters, with my little man and my dog (she spent 5 months in a great daycare that to this very day, I owe them soooo much). I have had Zero Contact with them sense I picked up our stuff on August 8. And with a self-centered being that is the way you have to go.
I took out a title loan (blessed to have my car from years ago -- another life another story). Made our way to Iowa. Do you know how I managed to get my apartment??? A taxi hit my car in the parking lot. Yes -- really. $2,200 bucks because I could prove that I always take my baby to Ford -- it matters.
Now, while I do have a great client and I am working on developing other income sources -- my kid was sick and in the hospital a week ago. That set me back (no work time) by $900. Which leads me to what I pay in bills because I really do not think the beggers have a clue as to what it is like to live in America, to be poor and not poor:
These are the bills that I am responsible for Monthly and other needs:
Rent $763
Electric $33 (okay I got lucky)
Gas $40 (again I am blessed and I know it)
Internet and business line $90
Cell $90 (two lines -- unlimited plan)
Title Loan $220
Childcare $1,250
Auto Insurance $47
Food $300
Car Fuel $80
Don't forget pampers, wipes, diaper cream, dog food, household goods like shampoo and soap....this is easily $200 or more.
And I am a month behind on all of these -- so the next time someone wants to beg, or scam -- maybe they should really look at their situation and see what they could do differently to truly change their circumstances.
Have a bunny to bring abundance....He likes to come to our door. Such a wonderful world to live in.
