Many things you have been told about marriage is a LIE.
Tomorrow, January 18th makes it exactly two months I tied the knot. And my experience has no semblance with what you'd read in books or hear from some motivational speakers. The case is similar for many newlyweds.
The Honeymoon Blues
Many times you hear statements like, "Everything changes after the honeymoon blues", but the reality is that the blues begin with the honeymoon. For couples who had no knowledge of penetrative sex, the blues begin on the wedding night. The man finds it absolutely difficult to understand why the lubricant is not doing the required job. He is worried as to why his bride is in tears at the slightest entry of his manhood. Unknown to him, she's experiencing deep pain as her vagina is not used to having a strange entity within its walls.
The groom is now torn between his hopes of having wedding sex dashed and the pain his wife is confronting. It gets to a point he wonders if she's intentionally refusing him and using the "pain" as an excuse. For some couples, this situation lasts for days, for others, it takes weeks and months before they can get the sexual groove together. Even at that, there is usually the need for compromise and understanding of the feelings of both parties.
I have heard many people say that when you get married, you'd have all the sex you want. But that's far from the truth.
The truth is that marriage is way beyond sex, and you may not have sex as much as you thought. Many times married couples, who have already planned to engaged in sexual intercourse end up going days and sometimes weeks without any penetrative action. This happens, not because there was no plan, but because some other more important things came up. Maybe the wife is stressed out from house chores, the husband has a pending work document that requires attention, or one of the couple falls ill. These things are not always cast in stone.
Couples do not ALWAYS fight
Also, there's this thought that newlyweds are almost always at each other's throats as they are just getting to know themselves. This is another lie you have been told. Do misunderstandings and arguments happen in a marriage? Of course, but they're usually resolved without it escalating to a full-scale discord. And this is not the case of every couple.
There's no marriage rulebook
So if you are on the verge of walking down the aisle with your spouse ensure you have it at the front of your mind that what happens in your marriage is predominantly up to both parties as there's really no rulebook.
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This post was culled from my personal experience