Here's what we have to understand the landscape of dating has changed a little.
I don't think people have changed. I think people... Everyone's always
People haven't changed, they're the same. The landscape's changed a little bit. When I started out the dating websites weren't huge. They were still a niche things. It was still a little embarrassing to go on a dating website. Now everyone's on Tinder. Everyone's on Bumble. Everyone's doing these things.
And here's the problem everyone's up against. A landscape that looks like there's infinite choice.
Cause it's not the same as the real choice, right? As a guy, you go on these things and you're like,
It's not true, right? A perceived choice is what messes people up. Cause Perceive choice is when a guy who's thinking about breaking up with his girlfriend look at a thousand options on his phone and says,
Right? He didn't have that twenty years ago.
Right? He had a fight with his girlfriend and she went out, and he was lonely.
He had nothing...
He had no one to talk to.
Right? The landscape is different now. There's perceives choice. There's the lack of empathy that is bred by looking at people through a screen. So now what do we do? We treat people worse because we can.
Right? So...
And you do it too. It's not just men.
We treat people worse. We ghost people. Breadcrumbing is the new term, right?
Like giving a little, giving a little, giving a little...
We say things that are older than we would ever say in person. So what happens is, men at least on the surface, seem less likely to commit today than ever because of the abundance of options. Women, I believe en masse have accepted a lower standard because they bought the drunk the kool-aid. They bought into this idea that men are just worse now and the landscape's just worse now and they have to accept less. And I don't buy it for one second.
And let me tell you why I believe, that the key right now, the key to winning in love right now. The key to getting something most people aren't getting. Ninety-nine percent of people aren't getting is to actually be higher maintenance than everybody else.
