Have you ever had this moment when you met someone at a party - and, you kinda knew this person... but not too much... And there was this fake smile on their lips?
"Heeeeyyy," they say.
And all you automatically do is to 'fakesmile'-back and say: "Heeyyyy"
....and before you realise you're caught up in the most boring conversation?
Yes.. I know - I know exactly what you're talking about.
And then...
After the initial overly excited "Heyyy", there is this awkward silence....
...this really, freakin, weird, awkward silence. :)
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But to break the silence we have this smart program within our heads, that somehow automatically asks "how are you?"
(We don't even know why we ask, we don't even care, all we really care is not to stay in that weird silence.)
"Greeeat... how are yoouuu?" they reply (We already anticipated that response, because it's their program)
"Greeeatt, thanks." (Our program)
... another awkward silence....
...Smile...
And we start talking about the weather, about some random news, about stuff that nobody really cares about - while we desperately try to find ways to leave the conversation.
THEN the magical moment comes:
Some of the two, finds a half-awkward excuse to leave the conversation.
You take a deep breath of relief, you turn around and before you notice you run into the next "Heeeyy"...
And all because we try to be polite...?
I'm taking the weight of the shoulders: Being polite - in that sense - is being a socially accepted dick.
Because we ask, but don't care. What's worse than pretending to care?
And then, some have the courage to call that people-pleaser-gathering a "Party."
I like parties,
they are here to celebrate. And celebrating isn't a boring thing. It's the time to appreciate, the time to explore to share and to connect.
And I connect, when I care.
So in that sense: Let's be a bit more rebelious. Even if it freaks out a few people. We perhaps do a favour to anyone involved... or...what's your point on that? Do you feel the same sometimes?
Thanks Alex Harvey for the photo (And sorry granma for the context. I'm sure it's awesome to party with you.)