Here’s a simple formula you can memorize:
FORD.
It’s an acronym for:
Family
Occupation
Recreation
Dreams
When you meet someone for the first time, ask about their family; people love to talk about that. If you come to a dead end with regard to family, ask what they do for work or school. Then, ask what their favorite pastime is. If you get through this, always ask about the future, and what they hope to do with their lives.
It’s a simple formula that keeps the conversation about the other person. Showing an interest (and I hope it’s a genuine interest) in the other person’s life will make you likeable.
The one message I wish I could tell everyone is: DO NOT take the initiative and prattle on endlessly about your health issues, or MY perceived health issues. I don’t want to hear about your diet/health regimens, and if I would only listen to you, and eat like you do, my life would be transformed. It’s really offensive.