Tips How to deal with marital disputes intelligently?
In the journey of married life is certainly not free of some marital differences and conflicts, whether simple or that require to be handled correctly and smart to get the least possible losses and therefore had to both husband and wife to know how they can behave intelligently with any problem or dispute Their marital life is affected without affecting it negatively.
1- The opinion of the second party shall be heard
It is not good to raise the voice of husband or wife during the discussion of any marital dispute, but should be quietly discussed in this matter and the problem is presented in all aspects and then the husband and wife to present his point of view and try to reach a compromise if necessary and not true Raising the voice or quarrel loud voice may affect the psyche of both of you and the psyche of the children as well and therefore it was necessary to calm in resolving any marital dispute
- Avoid temporary solutions
You must discuss any marital dispute that interferes with you in depth and does not build your point of view based on a superficial idea of anything and therefore it is important that you think about the problem in depth and know the appropriate solution to it and your partner and to reach a solution that satisfies all parties and resolve the problem And not using temporary solutions because it will lead to the aggravation of the problem and its development and therefore it was necessary to eliminate the problem completely and find a final solution to it
3 - Stay away from the strategy of victory for your opinion
Some husbands and some wives are not concerned about finding a suitable solution to the problem, but all they are concerned about is victory for their opinion, even if they are sure that this opinion is not right and therefore in this case, the end is the master of the situation. Therefore, both husband and wife should move away from the strategy. Victory for the view and preference of the family on the personal interest because the end will lead the future of the family to a dead end
4 - accept differences of opinion
Some couples and wives do not bear the existence of a different view of the second party and this is very wrong will not every person's opinion and various decisions stemming from his way of thinking so marriage does not mean that each party dissolves in the personality of the other party, but must keep each person's features of his personality and his views and freedom In the introduction of ideas and opinions and therefore each party in the marital relationship to accept the point of view of the second party
- Choose the right time to discuss any dispute
Do not choose the time when the wife is tired of working inside and outside the home and the care of children and do not hesitate when the husband returns from his work and exhausting to discuss any matter or problem because this may lead to more nervousness and inability to reach the right solution and right and therefore you Choose the right time in which the second party is calm until any problem is discussed quietly and wisely without fanaticism or jitteriness
- The views of the Second Party shall not always be rejected
Some couples and some wives are in a big error is to interview the views of the second party always rejected without thinking and this of course bothers the husband and bothers the wife so you should always think the views of the second party and try to understand whether these solutions appropriate or not really appropriate to solve a problem and I found that it is not really suitable to solve the problem, you should reach it in a nice and appropriate way and feel that it is right but you could not take this view because it will not solve the problem in the form of ideals and alternative ideas and so on
8 - You and others interfere in marital problems
Marriage is a relationship between two individuals and therefore it is not the right of any party to intervene in solving the problems of the couple even if they are closest close so it is wrong to interfere others in resolving your marital problems, but you have to resolve your problems together and quietly without allowing others to intervene if not already succeeded in Solve the problem You can resort to Counselor marital relations or seek help from a wise and wise person from the family to help you solve the problem intelligently and wisely
9 - Gain experience from the models surrounding you
The husband and wife must read the correct ways that each successful couple follows in their lives in solving their marital problems. You must also learn from the mistakes of others. Each one of you should learn how the mother treated the father and vice versa, whether the father or mother of the husband or the father and the mother of the wife. For ways that have not been successful in solving marital problems and thus the exploitation of good experiences in solving marital problems helps to succeed in a great way to solve them
- Do not mention the word "divorce"
Divorce is the quick solution to any problem, but it is the most hated halal in God and therefore should not be put the idea of divorce every time they are exposed to a problem and to make the idea of separation is not one of the ideas at all to solve the problem because the idea of divorce and termination of married life whether the desire of the husband Or wife builds more bridges and walls of insulation between men and women and each party feels that the other party no longer loves him and does not want to be present in his life
Thus, following the correct way to resolve intelligent marital differences is a major factor in the continuation of marital life successfully and happily with our wishes for a peaceful and happy marital life and free of differences and problems