A. ASK YOURSELF ABOUT YOURSELF :
The first step to a perfect start in the controlling process of yourself is by asking yourself some questions, any questions that could give you an image about who you truly are and how you behave in front of others and in which way you manage your relationships with people around you.
This will enable you to have a clear vision about you personality, analyze your techniques of dealing with issues in your life and make it possible for you to discover another side of you that you could not figure out before due to your ignorance of your potential as a human being.
Then, you would be able to look at your life from another perspective and focus on your goals and work ass you should do. Meanwhile, you are going to figure out the negative points about yourself that you clueless about, or simply ignoring it because you thought it is not about something that could ruin your life, but it might do so if you do not have the will to control your actions as you should be doing.
So, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, Who am I ? What am I doing with my life ? What can I do to make things work out for me ? Then you are going to realize many things that you must know about yourself and take benefit from that by applying rules that you set by yourself and try hard to follow them.
B. BE POSITIVE :
As a matter of fact, being positive is what makes you faithful and determined in your life. Without it you could never get that much power that you need to move forward and make decisions that are sometimes crucial to find your path and guide yourself to success.
It is also a good strategy to prevent yourself from being depressed or anxious, because you believe then that no matter what happens you will not give up on anything and try hard in everything that you do.
When you look at things positively, you can feel that everything no matter how it is have two sides. That is to say, you can not tell if something that had happened someday in some place or area is a curse or a bless, because it could be anything based on you way of seeing things and your way of explaining and analyzing facts.
So, give yourself the chance to look positively at anything to power up your will and to train yourself to think twice before you make any judgment about anything in life.
C. UNDERSTAND YOUR WEAKNESS :
There is no one in the whole world who has no weaknesses, every particular person have a weak point or two if there are not many and that is what makes us human beings. Yet, there are differences in terms of the way of handling it, because there i no harm in admitting that you have your own weakness and that does not make you a weak person, what really makes you a weak person is that you ignore these weaknesses of yours, either because of your pride or you just do not want to face it.
However, when someone is aware of his weakness and try hard to understand what is the reason behind it or the source where it came from, it becomes a weapon that he could use to be more powerful than ever and have a complete control over himself, because he faced his weakness bravely and transformed it into an advantage for him.
So, understand your weakness first, then you could have more control over yourself.
D. LEARN TO SAY ''NO'' :
People, in their relation with others, when they prefer saying ''yes'' than ''no'', it becomes a problem and an issue to reconsider if they want to be the masters of their actions.
Indeed, when someone asks for an opinion about an issue or an answer to an awkward question, people tend to respond affirmatively. For example, if someone asks for your opinion about a football player and then you respond him the way he would have responded, then you are considered as weak because you do not have the courage to give him your true opinion just to show that you know a lot about that field or to show off in front of that person. In fact this is not a way of generalizing a fact, but it is just to confirm that there are some people who lack courage and this is an obstacle that everyone should overcome in order to control their life properly.
E. LEARN TO BE PATIENT :
Do not aim for big goals and expect to reach them in no time, because this is impossible for without a fight and well prepared strategy. Therefore, being patient is what you need to make everything work out in a good way for you and help you in relaxing and concentrating more on major lines that you highlight in your life. It is a method that could fix any problem about your personality as well because being patient prevent you from making quick and precipitated decisions that might affect negatively your life and lead you to bad and unexpected results.
So, be patient in your life to reach success before even realizing it.
--> If you follow these tips it will be easier for you to control most of your actions and if you give it more thought and concentration by adding your own touch to all this, you will have the key to your mind that enables you to read your own actions analyzing it and proceeding with the appropriate decisions that you are going to make in your life.
- I hope that all of you could develop this ability to have more control over your actions in your life and I wish you a good luck with your life plans.
