Authors have written volumes on it, travelers have traveled around the world in search of it and philosophers are still pondering about it— what do women want? For starters, women want men to stop asking dumb questions like this and observe them, know them and feel them for the answer. For a man who is into a new relationship with his woman, it could be quite challenging to arrive at an answer depending on observation and knowing her, as their relationship is fairly new. The usual tendency of guys is to form an assumption regarding her needs from a relation, from their experience of previous relationships, or from wise advice of other guys. For all you guys out there, here’s a list that might help you in solving the age-old mystery.
- Hear your woman, genuinely!
Modern research shows that a woman speaks 20,000 words in a day on average opposed to 7,000 by a man—and they are also good at conversations, unlike men! So talking is an integral part of a woman’s daily activities and she needs to be heard for real; you need to hear her out, not just lend your ears and be busy with something else. Listen to what she has to say even if it is trivial, there could be clues in it for you for what it matters. It makes a woman feel desired when her man hears her out.
2 .Be loyal to your woman
Of course, you cannot two time your woman or anything of that sort. But by being loyal, it also means that your woman wants her to be the whole world for you. She probably thinks she is not the most beautiful woman there is, but you need to assure her that she is by giving your full attention only to her. So stop checking out other girls at least in front of her! Earn her trust by being loyal.
3.Talk to your woman
As important as it is for her to be heard, she needs to hear you talk about your life too. She needs to know that you trust her with your thoughts, dreams or ambitions. Don’t exclude her out of the conversation because you think women might have a lesser opinion or expertise about a certain topic.
4.Be honest with her
Have an honest approach with your woman. Come out clean about everything possible and if it is something that will hurt her, spill the honesty with diplomacy! Oh, you may tell what she wants to hear when she asks – “Am I looking fat?”; nobody asks such questions unless they are feeling low and you need to up their morale—so, use your brains genius and don’t tell her she needs to join the gym! Honesty builds trust in your relationship.
5.Observe her and understand her
You need to get to the point in your relationship where you can do stuff for her without asking her preference. For that, you need to observe her smallest reactions and behaviors. Understand your woman—know her inside out. Then you will start loving her genuinely for her flaws and mistakes too, which is the ultimate relationship goal.
6.Be caring and compassionate
Care for your woman’s needs, be there for her whenever she needs you and be there for her even if she doesn’t, but make sure you don’t irritate her with too much care! As much as you care for her, you need to care about others too and be compassionate. She needs to know you are a nice person to everyone, not just her. So don’t boss around the poor waiter next time when you guys are out, instead be nice to him even if he goofed up on the order, he’s probably having a bad day at work.
7.Romance her
Getting gifts for important milestones are okay. But gift her something for no reason, it could be something very small. Take a walk with her on the beach or get lunch for her at her workplace or place love notes in the kitchen for her to read—all these gestures tell her you are still as fascinated by her as the first day. Get your creative thoughts flowing and do something unique to woo her. Do romance with her, she deserves it.
8.Make her feel secure
You don’t necessarily have to be super strong and ripped up or anything, but you need to make her feel that you will there when she is in trouble. Moreover, she deserves emotional security too in a relation. She needs to know you are not cheating or abusive and you are not insecure, over possessive or judgmental. Secure her trust in your relationship.
Once you have observed all these above steps, you just have to wait till you get the results. But make sure that you do all this genuinely because people in love are very sensitive. A slight dishonesty or over-exaggeration on your part can make you look pretentious. However, if you have a great respect for the woman you love, you don’t have to do much effort, all these qualities would develop automatically in you, and then you can be assured that she’ll be yours.