Parenting? Parenthood? Can anybody tell me what parent hood is? Or simply the word PARENT , Is this easy? Is this hard ? What is this all about? Well , this is something that is definitely not edible,LOL. In my own definition ,
Parenthood is a sacrifice of love , you sacrifice your own happiness for your kid , and the love and care you're giving them is incomparable .There are pain, @teardrops , laughters, sleepless nights , physical changes , decision- making and your faith will be stronger and stronger each day. Parenthood is simply LOVE
I started being a parent when I was 17 , I gave birth to my son, and as i told on my story before the relationship to the father didn't last , so back then , i called myself a single parent. Because of this , when i graduated, instead of pursuing my dreams in a tv network,( where my belief was it would only pay minimum wage back then ) i worked as a call center agent . I have to be away from my son , to provide for him since in our province there's no call center yet. Whenever i got my salary most of it goes to my son's needs, i just rarely buy new things for myself , but i can say that at least that time i can still afford to buy , haha. Also i want to say that for me that stage of having my first born i really can't call myself a responsible parent to him, i got a lot of shortcomings and a lot of his milestones i've missed , which right now is still making me guilty and bringing @teardrops every night.
After 4 years , i met my partner today. then we had our first child after four years again of being together , Then this is when i started on being a full time mom, since my partner and i still love each other, hehe, i mean not unlike the first relationship, this one's still counting and ongoing . My partner is the one working and providing financially so i am so happy that i am able to take care of our daughter , This stage is where i can say i really had experienced being a parent because it was all me, from household chores , changing her diaper , giving her a bath and everything she needs to have . I got lots of adjustments like i only nuy new thinhs when i really need it , still can go outside but less, one big change here is i started Breastfeeding , this journey is really unforgettable and something i can be proud of , i don't know how to nurse her properly at start, but then gradually i did learned and it goes very well until now she's three years old .
Now let's complete my family ,after 2 years i gave birth to my youngest , Giving birth to her was the one i can really remember for it was all normal, with her brother and sister i'd go through painless normal wherein i still had vaginal birth but i can't feel anything ,actually with my first born , i can't remember any moment inside the labor room , as per my second child i've seen her after she comes out from me but still groggy. But it was all worth it. With my third , since i don't have work and i don't want my family and husband to pay a lot, i decided to have my check ups in a lying in clinic and there i gave birth too, it was like my first time to feel evrything, from the active labor until she finally comes out, all still fresh in my mind . It was a very easy experience for me though and i was very happy when i saw and heard my third child crying , @teardrops fallen from my eyes .
And now i can say that i am really a parent , a mother , had experienced and continually experiencing lots of adjustments and changes , let me enumerate what i can enumerate haha.
I learned how to cook different recipes , sometimes i even invent
I learned how to do laundry ( which was being done by my mom when i was still living with them haha, lazy me! )
Before, i can take a nap like every 10 am or every 3 pm but now , not anymore
Before i think I only eat half rice but now i eat like a monster , though i am still thin maybe because i am breastfeeding
Before i only care for my room, now it has to be the whole house
When kids are asleep i need to do chores double time before they wake up
I appreciate little things more
My faith became strong , praying a lot unlike before
my patience became unlimited
I think physically i am really a mother who is so skinny, got eyebags, loosing calcium, my bones are getting weaker i think , even my teeth
Sometimes i can't even take a bath or comb my hair
I don't know the word lazy now
Now i knew how important time management is
I cry a lot when i am getting tired
I am not sure if i have mentioned all but definitely there are more of that. It's true that you'll always consider your kids your priority , you'll become selfless, you'll become more responsible .
Being a parent is not that easy, but definitely an experience and a continuous journey that i can't trade to anything. I may not have all the desirable things in the world , But i am the happiest parent in the universe having my three precious Gift from Above , I'll be forever grateful for this life.
