“ This is what I know. Don't settle for 40, 50, or even 80 percent. A relationship - it shouldn't be too small or too tight or even a little scratchy. It shouldn't take up space in your closet out of guilty conscience or convenience or a moment of desire. Do you hear me? It should be perfect for you. It should be lasting. Wait. wait for 100 percent."
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It can look so tempting to settle for less, settle for second best just because it is what is in front of us, what life throws at us, especially when it looks like a better alternative for loneliness and filling the companionship we so so much crave.
Don't you get this wrong, am not telling you that you necessarily have to wait for someone you've been fantasizing about or someone who sees you as their ideal partner. On the look of it, I'm only saying we should have good worth and we should also seek for partner that have good worth - good worth means not yearning for someone fantasized image of perfection or settling for a partner who is scaling us the same way.
I'm saying you deserve a partner who's got their motives straight on and their worth in the right places so that when they look at you every time, they are looking at you in your totally flawed humanbeing-ness (not sure of the grammar though) 😛😛 and still muse to themselves "hell Yeah". It is either you genuinely care for one another or just want to care for one another. Either you genuinely love them or you'd love them more if only.
I'm telling you to learn not to live that way, I know this because we all deserve this. Don't treat other people that way and never allow them to regard you that way too.
Don't agree to be in a relationship with someone who looks at you and sighs deeply "flawed but they should do". Look for someone who is happy with your imperfections, someone your flaws doesn't matter to. " They just want you".
It doesn't matter if you're the favourite person they want to spend their quality free time with, best person to talk to or they feel totally secure with you and trust you and it is so much likely that every moment together feels raw and natural as anything you've experienced. Once they are still yearning for something "slightly better" Run!!!. I am not saying you will find someone/something better. It is to affirm that we should never settle for someone whose motives to enter into a relationship is like there is something to maximize.
It is just so certain that there will always be people smarter, younger, stronger, funnier, cuter, whatever. If they want to chase something that's not real and only exist in their mind, Just let them. Never settle for that crap.
Think of how heartbroken you would feel if you met someone totally incredible only to meet someone they are in a relationship with and realize they think of them as "Just okay". That's exactly how people will feel meeting you and your partner if you dare to settle for someone who wants perfection.
You deserve better, you deserve more than someone who is not sure.
So if your partner is yearning for something, leave, if they are not certain, leave, if they have conditions - time, always busy, not sure of being ready,are not happy but does not want to ruin it. Just Bounce. If they actually cared, they will not want to risk it, so leave if they do.
You are human, not a throw pillow. You add value as a complex and flawed human being.
Always choose someone who chooses you will continue to choose you no matter what.
Wait for someone who sees you just the way you are, not a chore or to-do-list. Allow someone else to step up and do exactly what you’ve been hoping for . choose you, right now. With whatever you have to offer.