It irked me anytime I see two teenagers or relatively young people in love or in a romantic relationship. I'm not a hater of relationship nor lovers but my idea of relationship was one that involves mature people, that could marry anytime not two people very uncertain about their future, probably unstable but yet professing love to each other.
I was told statements like it can be built from youth and they could still get married even after many years. Well I was clear with my idea and stuck with it or so I thought until I crossed path with Oluwaferonmi yes this girl changed my idea I had stuck so badly with.
Oluwaferonmi is a Yoruba name meaning God loves me, when we met I was certain I wanted to change it to I love you. Her dimples, nice curves, fine face and charming smile which made the beauty so enticing was something any man could fall for at first sight.
It was during my 6 months internship that we met, it was in Lagos at XYZ company where drugs were produced, we both worked in the laboratory where we test samples and compositions for each drug to be certain that it was suitable for the intended use.
I tried to maintain my resolve of staying put without any relationship saga or romantic issues till I feel I'm in the right age bracket as well as financial capabilities. That resolve didn't last so long because as we worked together for 8 hours or so everyday it was natural that we get along and even start liking each other.
Before long we got into a relationship, this was the very first time I was telling someone of the opposite sex the mighty 3 letter words I love you. Guess what the first day I mentioned it the reply I got was thank you so much. It seemed like the ground should just open that day to swallow me, I felt like Ive made a big mistake but latter that night I got the reply I was looking for when she messaged me, yes she told me she loves me too that earlier on she was just pulling my legs. I was giggling like a small inexperienced child. She was basically teaching me how to be romantic as I had no idea how this relationship things really work.
We tried our best to keep our work life away from the relationship life even though it was a herculean task. This romantic life I so dreaded among young people was exactly what I was enjoying and happy with them I started questioning my earlier resolve. It was a happy one, I fantasized how we would get married with children running around and it looked all fun and nice, little did I know that my fantasies was a mere joke.
While preparing sample for test one day she had to rush out to use the toilet so her phone sat idle on the desk, then the text came in, my love I have missed you when are you coming to visit. That notification pierced my heart like a sword, it was at this moment I decided to open her phone to check what exactly I saw.
I had her password but I've never checked her phone for reasons best known to me but this time I felt it's time to exercise that power. As I opened the phone the messages I saw with her supposed boyfriend which Is not me shattered me, I was even part of their conversations, I'm grateful to God I didn't do wrong tests so that one wrong action does not jeopardize my months of hardwork.
I'm hardly emotional but on this day I allowed the tears to flow freely, when I questioned her she said we're not dating that I never asked her out. It then dawned on me that I assumed that the fact that we were all lovey dovey made us to be in a relationship without asking.
I lost Concentration at work and the fact that I saw her every single day made it so hard for me to heal, a month later I was back to school for my final year, out of her sight and mind I finally found solace. I saw heartbreak as nothing but when I experienced it I now saw it in a different light and the emotional trauma that comes with it is exhausting. I could've stuck with my idea I had so much cherished but on the bright side I gained a little experience, next time I will be more direct and straight with what I want.