I want to appreciation the community for coming up with this theme of the month because it has helped me go over my life as regards loving myself and staying happy.
I'm one of those who have less confidence in myself, maybe not as much as before but I know for sure that I'm not too confident about myself. I still care less about myself sometimes and even say some discouraging words to myself.
“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.”
Robert Morley
I want to be happy my own way and one thing I've learned that would help me be happy my own way is "Loving Myself" and I've thought of ways to fall in love with myself again.
Okay, about me loving myself again... It's because I've once loved myself and I focused on things that made me happy because my family was complete and we were happy. I guess my self love back then depended on my family's involvement in my life. Well, I lost that love in myself and I became a girl who was too scared to talk about herself or even show herself out.
Writing this post now, I feel the need to get my confidence back and build the self love for myself once again without the help of anyone so I can sustain the happiness it will bring.
Self Love is nurtured like any other kind of love and I'm willing to take the steps that would grow the love for myself. No doubt, I've always tried to care of others all the time, so I won't dare to feel guilty about taking time for yourself every once in a while... I mean, I must be happy for me to make others around me happy right?
I've thought of some ways to nurture the self love and fall in love with myself over and over again till the end... Like I'm not planning to lose this love I would find in me.
Taking A Slow down
“Slow living is about intention, spending more time on things that are important and less on things that aren’t.”
Brooke McAlary.
First off, I've got to slow down a bit on a lot of things going on around in my life. This is not going to be easy but I am willing to give it a try.
Have you been in a situation when you feel like the world is rushing so fast that you hardly get to keep tabs on what goes in and out of your life?
I think I've been in such situation a lot of times and I want to press a slow button to it.
Slow down in eating, eat when I'm hungry, eat without hurry and eat to satisfaction. There is some kind of self care in doing so.
Slow down to take deep breaths as I spend my day, taking out few seconds to keep sane and meditate. I would be conscious of my mental health that way.
Slow down in reacting or getting angry to a situation, I would be mindful of my sanity when I do so.
My slowing down is being conscious of myself and keeping a normal and lovely version of myself.
No Comparison Anymore
“Why compare yourself to others? No one is the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”
Anonymous
Sadly, I do this unconsciously sometimes even when I try not to. I keep wondering how other ladies are so confident about themselves and I'm this way, I wonder how they look so beautiful and I have flaws in my own kind of beauty.
But not anymore would that happen, I want to be more grateful for the lady I am and the beautiful woman I'm becoming.
Comparing myself to others have never been good for me, it only makes me less confident and unhappy about myself which I don't want anymore.
I won't care about how wonderful others are or how good they look because I'm one of those wonderful and good looking lady out there too.
Others' Opinion Don't Matter Anymore
Everyone has a right to their own opinion about me, and that's fine. I'm just going to keep being myself and living my life. That's all I can do.
Dan Bilzerian
I think this is the major cause of my losing love in myself, I tend to listen to what people say about me a lot and unfortunately, I've heard not too good comments about me in the time past.
I do hear good comments too, but you would blame me to have allowed the bad comments get to me instead. This would be a thing of the past for me as I nurture self love for myself.
I want to be very conscious of what I think about myself than what others think, like I won't give a shit about their opinion... I think I'm good and still thriving to be perfect, none is perfect.
I'll Make More Mistakes
Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it.
Salvador Dali
There was a time I would cry so hard over my failures and mistakes, I'll keep hurts for long because I couldn't get it right and I know how painful those times were for me.
I want to love myself more by making mistakes and learning from them and to be so obsessed with becoming perfect.
Live My Favourite Day Everyday
Make each day, the best day of life.
Debasish Midgham
Consciously deciding that my day will be great is a way to start off on a good foot and keep a happy mind through the day, I want to have my favourite day everyday.
Even if it's not possible, I want to create my everyday happiness.
Find my place of bliss like visiting calm arenas, watching the clouds or reading my favourite books.
Hitting the road alone or with my fun friends, exploring new places or getting involved with fun new things everyday.
I'll just keep busy with myself, making me happy... It will affect others positively so why not!!!
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Thanks for reading!!!