My experience of being a victim has not been a good example, sometimes I get depressed and blame myself for not being a better person at what I do or what I did to get victimized.
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My experience with so many incidents that led to victimhood affects my thoughts till date. Sometimes during my resting hours, I start my thinking and go back in time through my thoughts to imagine all these experiences I have had and I often get sad or depressed while reflecting about them. To escape such thought I try to engage in some activities I love doing to serve as a distraction to my mind.
Victimization is an act of being treated unfairly by others, often leading to a sense of being oppressed or mental illness. Victimization can also lead to mental illness like anxiety disorder and depression.
My Experience of Being Victimized.
My first experience was in my early school days, I was one of the dullest in my school days, and I often struggled to meet the average grade. Most of my teachers considered me less or unimportant in class. They attended to other students perfectly but when it came to me they responded like they already knew I had no future or nothing to achieve. Since I was the dullest in the class if there were challenges in the class I was often regarded as a suspect “he is dull, after all, he could also be a thief”, I remember being beaten severely not only on this occasion but on several incidences also. Even my dad considered me as nothing during my early days except my mom, who stood by me till I understood and perfected my way into the right part. The thoughts of those days still haunt me to date. My friends then, out of 105 students I only had one friend and we both struggled with our academics but I was far worse. The other student considered me as less important, I was not born an introvert but this experience made me an Introvert, not being able to speak out, living in my thoughts, and several characteristics.
Growing up with this thought and experience sometimes gets me depressed. It was only my mom that stood by me, even my sister and brother didn’t notice I was bitter and sad inside, and that I was victimized by my teachers and colleagues also.
How I Overcome the Victimhood Mindset
Understanding My Potential; For us not to be victimized, we must understand our capacity and potential on how far or how capable we are to carry out that task at hand. My mom taught me this understanding. I must understand myself first and not look at what people tell me but focus on myself, and my thoughts and care more for myself.
Self-esteem; We must value ourselves and take responsibility for every action we take in life. I understand the value of myself late but now no matter where I find myself being a victim, I know my worth, I know my value and nothing can hold me or stop me. I believe when a person has low self-esteem then the person has a high chance of being victimized.
Courage; We must be bold to face whatever challenges that may face us. My Dad and Mom taught me this factor, and it has helped me in life. Courage goes a long way in helping a person from victimhood. I learned to face my challenges and every problem that I may face courageously. To my understanding, when we have high self-esteem on our self then we will be courageous.
To anyone who might be facing Victimhood or victimization, I will encourage you to stand strong, understand your self-discovery, and know your self-esteem, then you can overcome this negative factor just like I overcame.
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