I have suffered a lot in the few relationships that I have been in. Not because I am a bad person but because I tend to know everything about the person I am dating. On several occasions, this has brought an end to most of my relationships. The pains I go through when I get to realize certain things that I didn't expect from my partner. This is what I call self-inflicted pain because it's a result of my stubbornness and stiffneckedness. One of the things that I have learned in my relationship is that curiosity will do more harm than good. I believe in openness in relationships. I believe that it is proper for couples to be transparent to each other but at times, your spouse may want to hide certain things from you for your good. Some of the things faced by our spouses are such that the other partner may not be able to handle it. Therefore whenever we are curious to know everything happening around our partners we end up hurting ourselves.
Typically in this aspect are always checking your partner's phones to see his/her chats and call logs. Some even go to the extent of checking their transactions. As beautiful as it might seem to know what's going on in your relationship it is also disastrous because you might end up seeing the things that might affect your emotions. Those things may break you down for some time and might affect your love towards him or her. Most times, we stumbled on these things that might not be real. At times, the person might be catching a cruise and you eventually seeing it might also think that they are real.
Curiosity has brought an end to lots of beautiful relationships. Some things are better not known to have peace of mind than to know them and suffer great consequences. I know that many will think that knowing everything about your partner will give you assurance in the relationship and will make you know your stand or place in the person's life. This might be true to an extent, however, being oblivious to certain things is good because your peace of mind will be affected.
Moreover, it shows some sense of responsibility and respect for boundaries. It is wrong to hack into people's privacy in the name of curiosity. People's chats, call logs, and financial information are some of the things that one shouldn't know about unless you're allowed by the owner. If we learn to practice healthy curiosity, we will preserve our relationships and also enjoy our peace of mind which will transform into healthy living.
Beyond the legal implications of harmful curiosity, it is a social responsibility to respect boundaries in relationships. To preserve any relationship I think healthy curiosity should be practiced and adopted. Do not spy on your partner's devices because you may not understand their intentions behind the things you would see.
This post is in response to the #marchinleo #prompt