In this article, i want to shortly introduce some tips
Three responses to negative feedback and a couple of ways that you can deal with that and make it more productive
So negative feedback is something that we all face eventually and there's three predictable responses that we have that. I've seen a lot of in other people and in myself, when it comes to being criticized or getting negative feedback, the first one is to be crushed to just feel like,
“oh my gosh, i'm i feel so exposed”. You just believe it, you buy into it uncritically.
The second response is to resist, to deny the feedback, or to fight against it. That can neither be a quiet but passive aggressive stance or that can be very verbal and out loud and contradictory.
The third response is a little more nuanced which is to rationalize or to reason your way through . The whole point though is to try to minimize or blunt the sting and the impact of the negative feedback.
All three of these are not very productive ways but they're very predictable. I would encourage a more emotionally intelligent response, take time to think about and sift through the feedback and try to grow from it, and i've got a couple of tips for how you can do that.
The first one is breath
take time to have a deep breath, three cleansing breaths even better if you take 10 seconds to just breathe. Three deep breaths in 10 seconds put you in a whole different mental state. Floods the brain with oxygen helps you slow down mentally and emotionally. So, that you're in a better place to process what's happening.
Second tip is thank you
Just say thank you to the other person. Don't explain, don't rationalize, don't criticize yourself but say thank you
Third response is say more
Show genuine curiosity, “ i'd like to understand better”, “i'd like to know more”, “ i like to tell me more about what you see”. As you practice these breathe, thank you, and say more; you're going to grow through the process of using negative feedback in a way that is not the typical.
We can all grow together if we will take time to help each other process negative feedback. Good luck in the process. look forward to hearing what you're learning and how you're growing in this journey.