Hello everyone!
Probably one of the reasons I'm more productive with my posting lately is that I immediately address the issues that bother me. Before, I'd simply shrug things off and go to sleep or do something else. As the saying goes, any untreated wound will fester. Now, I'm more upfront about things and no longer afraid to make decisions, regardless of others' opinions.
I might jinx myself, but I feel like I've started 2025 off right. While there's still much to work out, I no longer feel burdened by things that don't directly affect me or my family. As I stated in my previous post, my sister's recovery is my top priority. Everything else is just noise.
Miss Universe 2018, Catriona Gray, said we should look for the silver lining. I guess the silver lining in my sister's illness is that I've learned to let go of things without guilt. I felt I accomplished another act of letting go yesterday when I left the Hive group I founded with @indayclara here in Cebu. I felt it was the right time to move on to other things because the group no longer served my best interests.
I apologize for the bluntness, but I felt the group drained me. I wasn't getting anything meaningful from it anymore. It became a distraction, consuming a significant amount of time worrying about things I shouldn't have.
No offense to the group members, especially those I interacted with personally, but I no longer care if you're offended by what I did.
I feel I've dedicated my time, energy, and expertise to onboarding and supporting many Hivers. I believe I've given enough. I've been incredibly open and available, to the point where any member could message me about their problems, even though they had their own onboarders. Imagine if I had invested my time and expertise in something that directly benefited me? As I've said before, I'm not truly altruistic.
As we all pursue our different endeavors, whether here on Hive or elsewhere, let the title of this post serve as my advice to you. It's also my parting gift. Reputation is how others perceive you, while integrity is how you conduct yourself when no one is watching. On Hive, reputation is often quantified by the number associated with your name. It can be easily manipulated to make you appear as a valued community member. There's no reliable way to measure integrity here because it's impossible to quantify.
It's personal.
@indayclara asked why I let what happened affect me. I said it was time to move on to bigger and more important things. But honestly, I value integrity above all else. I felt the group had lost its values. What happened was merely a symptom of a deeper moral decay. I no longer wanted to be a part of that. I was disappointed but not surprised. There were subtle signs I initially ignored.
Do you know what I detest most? Being gaslighted and manipulated. I also hate apologizing, even when I know I'm right. If I'm wrong, I'm not too stubborn to admit it. I'll apologize and correct my mistake. I truly despise people who insist on something only to be proven wrong later.
I hate liars and manipulators.
"It's just one person, though." One drop can indeed poison the well. I'm sorry, but the well is already contaminated.
I've helped many people in the past, particularly those with Binance account issues. I had no prior experience with these problems, and they were often unique, but I spent considerable time finding solutions or workarounds. I received no compensation for these efforts. Now, if you encounter problems, please consult your onboarders. At least they're earning something from onboarding you. If you have questions about travel posts, direct them to the appropriate channels, such as the Worldmappin community's Discord. Please do not contact me directly with questions outside of official channels. For years, I've been readily available. That chapter has ended as of yesterday. I'm no longer available as if I'm the answer to all your problems. Guess what? I have my own significant challenges to deal with!
You can call me bitter, loser, or overly sensitive.
I don't care. I stand proudly knowing that I haven't plagiarized or participated in any form of abuse here. I've endured this long because I value my integrity more than my reputation.
Let me guess, you won't be around when posting is no longer profitable. You'll cash out everything you can whenever it's convenient.
The root of the issue is that you made me to apologize when I was right. Yes, I already mentioned that. I'm repeating it for emphasis and to increase word count. Besides, at least let me monetize my anger.
Kim Ybañez
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