Going through disappointment can be one of the most painful things for a person. Having to put one's hope in another person or something; with the confidence that it works out only to find it otherwise can be a gruesome experience. This isn't something that could be considered as the experience and tendencies for an emotionally "weak" person, to say. It occurs to all and the effects and not with respect to anyone's status, age, gender, qualifications and whatsoever. It comes with the overwhelming effect on whoever is on the receiving end.
Having to go through disappointment is something no one would ever want. While some of such can be avoided, some can't just be. In any way, if one happens to be hoping for something to work out, there's hope and with that comes the possibility to be disappointed. I'll say it's something that can't be entirely avoided, even though some measures can be helpful in situations especially unwarranted. What happens then when we're disappointed?
As much as disappointment comes with the negative emotional effects, they're privileges to look deep and gain some insights and lessons. I've come to consider that every situation and happening with us should be opportunities to gain some sort of lesson. So much it is with disappointment as there are lessons to learn from it.
One of such lessons is the need to put less or no total hope on a person. I know it can't be said to be totally avoided. But I've come to learn from one or two experiences that putting less or no hope in a person will help avoid disappointment. It's only when you hope for something that you get pained when it doesn't happen.
Adding to that is the lesson that one should learn to be expectant of nothing. The feeling of surprise is certainly better than that of disappointment. When there's no expectations and then the unexpected—in a good sense here—happens, it will lead to an overflowing emotion of happiness, excitement; all boxed up in the parcel of surprise. It's a very handy lesson for me. This has even gone ahead to avoid expectations which when failed can lead to bitterness towards the person. Disappointment can bring great lessons. Yes!
Disappointment will make one know better to put more effort in achieving their results themselves than putting such hopes on others. This is something that has helped me in life. For as long as I am fit and disposed to do it myself, I tend to not leave it to another person so as to avoid disappointment; yes, which I did have before in situations like that. It's then up to me to know I have a business to settle, and only myself do I have to blame if it doesn't work out. No disappointments.
I'll say that one other lesson I've garnered from the class of disappointment is to learn to be strong; mentally and emotionally. As stated earlier, disappointments can be inevitable to some extent. Like say, you planned in something and then an unfortunate circumstances happen that was unavoidable. At the moment it will surely be painful no matter what. One might get disappointed at this point and act the wrong way. But a mind prepared and strengthened; mentally and emotionally would do better. Hence, a good lesson there.
Disappointments can be a big deal. What we do with them can be the thing that matters. So, learn from it and become better.
This is my entry for the #marchinleo prompt, day 23 in collaboration with Emotions and Feelings. You can participate here.