Most people are not open to change in their lives and marriage is no different. Just as some people stay in a job or take a job in a new place without trying to learn the job, or try new foods without researching it first, many people enter marriage with a similar attitude.
The first thing people often think about before getting married is whether they love each other, but how do you actually define the kind of love a couple should have between them? So many people believe that when they get married, the love they have for their partner will grow over time, but often this is not the case. Love in marriage cannot transcend who you are. It is the person you are before marriage that determines the person you become in marriage.
There is no way intimacy can grow when there is no chemistry between the intended couple before marriage. You can never develop true intimacy if there was no flame of love before marriage. This is a key that few people get right.
In marriage, the love you have for each other is only a reflection of how much love you have for each other before marriage. Also, if for any reason, if you should be with the person you are marrying and nothing moves in your body and nothing pulls you towards the person you are intimate with, you are in trouble.
This is why most marriages encounter cases of infidelity and divorce in almost all cases. And that's why preparation before marriage is so important and why you shouldn't jump into a relationship with the first person who opens the door. But in order to get married, the other person must be suitable for your body and your mind.
If you don't prepare for it in this way, you can miss out on the best marital experiences, because once you lose them, there is no recovery.
One of the qualities to look out for in your future partner is "capable hands". This means someone who is willing and able to take on financial responsibility when needed. It's not just a man, as most people think, but also a woman.
It's so unfortunate how most women think about marriage in terms of the financial side and who should pay the bills. We see too many men as the breadwinners of their marriages and almost every woman thinks that it is the sole responsibility of the man to do this and if by chance the woman thinks she is a princess who deserves special honor when she takes care of the finances.
There are problems in so many households when it comes to handling family finances and I think this problem could have been avoided if couples knew each other well before marriage. A lady who is so dependent on men to meet all her needs financially, even though she is capable of doing it herself, would not change in marriage.
In many homes I have noticed that some women lend money to men so that the men have money to give them to buy the things they need. As an example, take a woman who asked her husband for some money, and the man happened to have no money at the time, so the woman said to the man, “You don't have any money now, but you should borrow from me. when you get some money you'll pay me back. ” This is how most women live with their husbands in marriage, Every penny they spend on family needs must be returned to them by their husbands. I'm afraid of those kinds!
Without a woman who has hands that can work and can develop financial responsibility, a man who earns his own money to meet financial needs cannot be happy with the woman he wants to marry. A man's concerns is not about the money a woman has, but about a woman who can add value to him. A woman who can stand up to her man to take on the financial responsibility of maintaining the family in his absence is the one who makes a man happy.
Before you get married, you need to prepare yourself sexually, financially, and be ready to make sacrifices. I recommend that you engage in marriage counseling. This way, you can learn how to become a team and how to manage household affairs to avoid situations that cause conflicts. If you make mistakes before marriage, there is no room for correction, only God can help you.