I have been so busy with school activities that I had to put aside all other things and prioritize my education. Today is a free day for me so I decided to make good use of it by writing and publishing a post on Hive Blockchain. While surfing the Blockchain, I came across a topic that caught my attention. What are the things that annoy us? We are humans and sometimes, little things annoy and irritate us. Sometimes these little things are capable of ruining our day. So, what are the things that irritate me?
I have quite a lot on my list, the first thing on my list is disrespect. I will never forget the day someone spoke to me like I was invincible. So, on this day I was in school with my friends, we had just finished a class so we were waiting for the other class. I left them to get something on getting back I did not know what happened so I tried to talk to one of my friends then she just shouted at me in public without knowing what happened, I was shocked and embarrassed at the same time. I felt so disrespected that day that I had to just walk away.
Another thing that annoys me is feeling unheard. There was this day that a friend of mine was having a issue with her boyfriend so she came to me to seek advice. I am not the kind of person who likes to advice, but I couldn't turn her down because she was my friend. I tried to contribute to the conversation. But the way she just shut me up like my opinion didn't matter at all. I tried to talk again, but my words were swallowed up by the din of louder voices, more confident tones. I felt so stupid, invisible and insignificant.
Moving on, another thing that annoys me is inconsiderate behavior. I could say I'm really considerate once it comes to people I love. But once it gets to me it makes me wonder how can people be so inconsiderate. Little things matter to me a lot. There was this day, I sat outside trying to read. I couldn't concentrate well because the course was very bulky and difficult. In the midst of everything, someone next door blasted music from their phone without using headphones. The loud noise was piercing. When I politely asked them to turn it down or use headphones because I was trying to read, they just hissed and muttered under their breath. Their inconsiderate behavior didn't only disrupt my reading, it also made me feel disrespected and unvalued. It was a small act, but it spoke about their regard for others' feelings and space.
The one that tops the list is silent treatment. I don't just get it why people will just start giving silent treatment without talking things out, communication is very easy, if I did something you don't like I feel we can just talk things out instead of giving each other silent treatment. My roommate and I hadn't spoken in days, the silence between us growing thicker with each passing moment. It started with a misunderstanding, but now it felt like a gap.
We'd go about our daily routines, avoiding eye contact and conversation. The only sounds were the clicking of dishes. It was like living with a stranger, not someone who I'd once considered a friend. The silent treatment was suffocating, making our small apartment feel even smaller. I longed for the easy laughter and late night conversation we'd once shared. I wondered how long it would take to break the silence and reconnect. So, I texted her and told her that we needed to talk I asked her what was happening, why the silent treatment of all of a sudden? Then I realized that it was initially my fault and a little misunderstanding caused the silent treatment. She always says I'm oblivious, I don't know things unless you tell me and she's the complete opposite, she expects you to know things without her saying anything. I apologized and she also apologized and we went back to the way we were, cool friends. This made me think communication can really fix a lot. Communication fixed days of silent treatment.
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