My wife and kids are my vines. My parents and siblings are also intertwined. My friends are also part of this mix of what is me. Importantly though, the core of the vine is me and it's OK to make time for me, to appreciate me.
I don't think it is selfish at all. I think if we each take care of our core with the intent to better support the other branches and become more intertwined, the better we would all be. It is like the "many twigs are hard to break" - community should all be intertwined.
I don't mean inbred.
Also. James Brown is Funky.
RE: Introducing the funky tree of Benahavís and some life ponderings