Self-talk is very important for our lives. However, many people overlook it because they believe that individuals who engage in self-talk are either eccentric or have nothing to do. However, I believe that self-talk is a very powerful tool that activates your inner voice, making you clearer. You can understand what you need. In life, just by talking, you come to know how you are bringing or absent. When you talk to yourself, you come to know what problems you are facing and how you can solve them. And just talking is a very good thing because you get attention from it. You learn to value your own needs instead of depending too much on external approval.
Whenever you have any doubt or negativity about anything in life, suppose you are not able to do this thing, or you will not be able to do that thing. But you are not able to understand that it will not be possible. Then you should just talk. You should sit in a quiet place. Take some quiet time, maybe 10 to 20 minutes, to reflect calmly before rushing to a decision on whether you can do it or not. If you can do it, then you should focus on it and approach it. Talk to yourself about opportunities, seats, best, your relationship, all these things. If you only listen to others’ opinions, you may get confused, and then you may also get confused. But if you talk to yourself, then you will get clarity that yes, I have to go in this direction, and this should be my point of view.
Many people also believe that they have to avoid following self-talk. In real life, it is not necessary to show those people that I can talk to myself, that I believe that it is a very positive thing which brings out the voice inside you, sometimes it happens that many people understand themselves and think that I could not do it, or you spread negativity inside yourself. Then, when you suddenly think to yourself that maybe it can be done to me, or I can do it for life.
But many people believe that self-talk means overthinking, but this is wrong because overthinking means what you think inside yourself, which no one can sense. Suppose you are thinking that I will fail or that my work will not be done. But you are not even trying, but just talking means that you are saying yes to do this, and I can listen to the voice inside me, whether I will be able to do the right thing or the wrong thing or not, otherwise it is a different thing. That is why many people believe that self-thought and thinking are very different things because the work of both is different; overthinking feeds you negativity, and only talking makes you feel very positive.
And it has a lot of benefits. With self-talk, suppose there is a public speaker or some person who has to give a speech in front of a lot of people, then to stay focused, he will talk to himself and motivate himself, saying, "Yes, I can do it. This is a big movement. For anyone, you should have just said. Yes, I am ready and I am well prepared, then I can do this and this thing will improve you, even if you are a little nervous, this thing will do you a lot of good. But there are many places where you have to face challenges also, like exams, jobs, interviews and difficult conversations, then it works for you in between all of that.
Many people become victims of anxiety or depression because they forget to talk to themselves. They always think that they are perfect, or they think that they are doing very well, after seeing someone else's life. But the truth is that to date, everyone has some problem or another, and if you just talk, then it will be beneficial for you. Because when you listen to your voice, you will feel completely free, or the heaviness inside you will reduce, and this is a very good thing for your mental peace.
Sometimes it happens that a person influences you and says that you are not capable enough for that thing or you cannot do that work at all, but you have the potential inside you that you can do the work, then at this time you should self-talk or talk to a person whom you trust completely. Yes, you should also seek support. But sometimes you should also talk to a real person because their approach is even better. After all, everyone's advance is different. And this is a very true thing. But if you ask someone you trust, then they will be able to give you a better reply. But then you will have to think for yourself what he has said. Is it right that what my friend said, if you want more of that, then this thing makes you a more perfect person?
Lastly, I would like to say that you should wake up every morning and give yourself 10 minutes. Talk to yourself and meditate for a while, or do something that you like. This will benefit you a lot. It will help you a lot with your long-term health. You will feel good and happy. Because all these things will happen very easily, which means no one will be able to influence you and your life. And focus more on inner strength and how others naturally recognise that and an intelligent person, because if you talk to yourself more, then you will be able to understand yourself more, so you will feel that the other person will feel that you are a very smart person. That is why he will come to you for advice. In this way, you will become a very good person.